Hypnosis and Radical Self-Care

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How important is it to look after yourself? It’s crucial. A seemingly logical notion is often neglected because of daily life. There are so many other aspects of our day that we prioritise above self-care. We’re not talking about the cosmetics you use, or the level of hygiene you maintain. This runs deeper. This is about spiritual well-being. State of mind. The upliftment of one’s self. You can’t be there for another if you’re troubled.

If your spiritual happiness has taken a back seat, then how much of yourself can you possibly give? Hypnosis forms part of self-care. A well-balanced lifestyle is made up of a healthy mind, body, and spirit. This can be acquired through hypnosis, of which we’ll get to later, but first let’s take a closer at the importance of looking after yourself.

What is radical self-care?

Radical self-care is when you take the responsibility to look after yourself before you worry about taking care of someone else. Sounds a little harsh, but it’s entirely necessary. Simply put, you can only give what you yourself, have inside.

So how do we ensure that our capacity to love and nurture is full? Through self-adoration and appreciation. Not in a conceited way, but in a more conscious and positive way. Basically, we need to be more self-aware. Here are a few simple ways you can get started:

  • Take time for yourself. Even if it’s just 10 minutes a day to collect your thoughts and reflect upon certain aspects of your life.
  • Get enough sleep and rest. When you’re running on fumes there’s no chance of being your best self. Sleep is a highly important part of maintaining a healthy mind, spirit, and body.
  • Take power naps (find the time, you deserve it!)
  • Get between 7 to 9 hours of sleep a night – this is what we need to function properly.
  • Set aside some time, at least three times a week, to read, meditate, or listen to music. Whatever it is, do something to take your mind off things.
  • Handle your stress. There are some things we can’t control. Lower your stress levels by realising what you can and cannot change.
  • You don’t have to hit the gym or go for a run every day, but take some time for a jog or a walk a few times a week. It may be a struggle at first but in time it revitalizes you.
  • Appreciate what you have.
  • Look out for the joy in your life and take a moment each day to appreciate them.
  • Try starting your day by thinking about what makes you happy; recall moments that make you smile.

Hypnosis as self-care

Everyone is different, that’s what makes us individuals. We all have unique processes of going about self-care. Some people go to the gym, some go to day spas, and some climb mountains or run for miles at a time. Another way of maintaining balance and taking the time for self-care is through hypnosis. It is an effective tool for amplifying self-worthiness and wellbeing.

Hypnosis can help with:

  • Grief through the loss of loved ones
  • Post Trauma Anxiety and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • Depression
  • Sleep disorders like insomnia, Sleep Apnea (OSA) and Narcolepsy
  • Phobias, fears and common anxiety

Hypnosis is a form of consciousness. When in a hypnotherapy session, the individual has direct access to their emotions and body because they are essentially in a subconscious state. Within this state, we reveal more and release emotions, and this is effectively how the process of healing can be achieved – through acceptance and openness.

If you want to know more about the mind-body connection and how hypnosis can heal, book a free consultation with me today.

Can hypnosis heal PTSD?

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Would you believe me if I told you that the psychological upheaval and trauma experienced by a soldier in a war, under constant threat of being killed, is not that far removed from a childhood spent in an unstable home, exposed to abuse or neglect?

The brain and stress

A study of Adverse Childhood Experiences shows a very real and lasting impact that the stress hormone, cortisol can have on the development of young brains and bodies, and the lasting impact that this has on the health and wellbeing of a person over their lifetime. It’s important to note that these results are experienced across all demographics, education levels and income brackets.

Equally as damaging, is the effects of the “always-on” fight or flight response in soldiers.

While your conscious mind, known as the cortex, may realise that the loud bang of fireworks is not a threat since you are no longer in a war zone, the much faster reaction of the primal brain doesn’t understand that the environment has changed, and simply reacts as a survival response, changing a variety of physical reactions in the process (such as increased heart rate and release of adrenaline).

What is PTSD?

What sets us apart from the rest of the animal kingdom, and the reason humans have ruled as a species is not because we are stronger or faster, but because we are smarter.

This is because of the size of our cerebral cortex. This part of the brain is what makes us human, it’s the intelligent brain that gives us our individuality and personality.

But we still rely on the subcortical brain to run our unconscious functions, such as regulating heat, breathing and our heartbeat. In this way, we don’t have to think about these functions, or even be aware of them, for our body to react.

And in the same way that we can’t stop our heart from beating by thinking about it, we can’t overcome the subcortical brain’s survival instincts to situations that are easily mistaken for combat.

This is compounded by the fact that this primal part of our brain reacts faster, essentially overpowering our good sense.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is made up of three components:

  1. Re-experiencing symptoms (intrusive memories and nightmares)
  2. This leads to immediate physiological and emotional arousal
  3. Which leads to immediate avoidance.

As humans, we have become adept at processing and organising information (that’s where our large cortex is apparent).

But because we’re used to being able to make sense of the actions in our environment, life-threatening and therefore emotionally charged, traumatic events are not processed effectively by the brain.

We tend to reject and actively push the memories away and avoid environmental triggers, but this very normal, understandable response often means that these traumatic memories aren’t processed or filed away, and they continue to intrude on daily life.

This develops into post-traumatic stress disorder and is a debilitating illness for millions of people who may have lived in a war zone, been in a traumatic car accident or even a plane crash or home invasion.

If you suffer from PTSD, then know that there is help. Let’s find out how hypnosis can help you heal:

How hypnosis can heal PTSD

Hypnosis is a fantastic way to not only cope with the anxiety and insomnia that soldiers returning home experience, but it also helps by working on the patterns of the subconscious mind.

It changes the way we think about certain events by repatterning the neurological pathways that are created when we continuously think about a trauma. In the same way that soldiers are trained to react against their natural instincts, hypnosis can train your subconscious mind to process information differently. And this, of course, extends beyond soldiers as PTSD suffers, and applies to anyone who has undergone a traumatic event such as a terrible car accident and even a plane crash or home invasion.

Hypnosis helps the mind to do what it struggles to do –  process and thus file away a traumatic memory, instead of recalling it time and again in what is basically an attempt at organising and understanding the chaos of a situation.

Would you like to find out how hypnosis can help heal from PSTD? Book a free consultation with Elaine Young and take the step towards wellness. 

How Childhood Stress leads to Autoimmune Disease in Adults

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The connection between childhood trauma, inflammatory response and especially the autoimmune response is validated time and time again by ongoing research. This research suggests that there is a direct connection between childhood stress and chronic disease.

What is Autoimmune Disease?

Let’s first quickly establish what it is, followed by a list of types and symptoms.

Autoimmune Disease:

The body starts producing antibodies that attack its own tissue. Antibodies are intended for the defence against disease but in this case, the body mistakes parts like your skin or joints as ‘foreign invaders’.

Common types of Autoimmune Disease:

• Rheumatoid Arthritis
• Lupus
• Diabetes Type 1
• Multiple Sclerosis
• Crohn’s Disease
• Ulcerative Colitis
• Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis
• Grave’s Disease

Symptoms of auto-immune disease:

Symptoms vary with each disease but some common ones to look out for are:

• Fatigue
• Joint & muscle pain
• Numb or weak muscles
• Sudden change in weight
• Sudden change in bowel movements
• Abdominal pain
• Skin rashes

How does hypnosis heal?

Physical approaches that play a crucial role in healing yourself from Autoimmune diseases include balancing hormones, optimising your diet, addressing gut health and decreasing any environmental exposure.

So, what can hypnosis do?

Hypnosis helps with the mental aspect of the healing process, sometimes the most challenging part. The mental aspect is concerned with:
• educating and empowering yourself to manage stress;
• learning coping mechanisms;
• addressing anxiety, depression, trauma, other mental health concerns specific to you;

The ACE – Autoimmune connection

Studies show that people with two or more Adverse Childhood Experiences were at 70-100% increased risk for hospitalizations with autoimmune-type diseases, decades into adulthood. People that were mistreated as youngsters have shown very high levels of systematic inflammation during adulthood. Sometimes, up to twenty years later.

Another interesting point is that individuals who experienced stressful childhoods have shown prominent levels of inflammation when older, regardless of whether or not they experienced high stress levels later in life.

I have put together a few questions to help identify if Adverse Childhood Experiences are making you ill, take my quiz to find out.

But how?

Some interesting points to consider:
1. The many individuals who have experienced elevated levels of stress but haven’t been diagnosed with a single autoimmune disease.
2. When an individual is exposed to stress as a child, those negative experiences are embedded into their immune system.
3. White blood cells called macrophages exhibit a magnified inflammatory response within the individual’s body.

This isn’t the full story though because the microbiome and Epigenetics play a significant role in the Autoimmune development process after Adverse Childhood Experiences too. The aspects that influence gene expression in epigenetics include:

• Hormones (this is why Autoimmune diseases are more prevalent in females than in their male counterparts)
• Diet
• Environmental toxin exposure
• Social interactions
• Smoking History

The impact:

If you’re an individual who has experienced ACEs, your long-term health effects are not limited to autoimmune disorders alone. In fact, studies show that people who have experienced ACEs run a greater risk for mental illness, substance abuse, suicidal tendencies and other health outcomes to the extent of heart attacks and diabetes.

As previously mentioned, according to Statista.com, Autoimmune conditions are a lot more common in women than men, with women accounting for 57% of all diagnosed autoimmune conditions in the US, and 63% of autoimmune conditions in Brazil.

ACE victims have different risk factors to most people and therefore need to be treated differently from a medical perspective. Unfortunately, when it comes to the treatment of Autoimmune Disease, aspects like mental health and Adverse Childhood Experiences are often overlooked.

 

If you’d like to find out more information about how hypnosis can help you manage your Autoimmune disease, book a free discovery call with me today and we’ll tackle your issue together.

Are Adverse Childhood Experiences making you sick?

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When I was 9 years old, I developed a severe headache that caused one side of my body to go completely lame. I wasn’t even able to speak properly and was rushed to the hospital for an EEG.

I was diagnosed as suffering from a migraine and sentenced to a lifetime of misery. Every time I have the slightest amount of stress (whether good or bad), I end up bedridden in terrible pain for 2-4 days. I’m sure you can only imagine how incredibly disruptive this has been from a family and career perspective.

What I know now is that my migraines, and indeed so many other health concerns I have suffered from over the years, can be attributed to adverse childhood experiences.

But what is an adverse childhood experience?

 

The definition of adverse childhood experiences

Did you know that there is an index that measures the impact of childhood trauma (known as adverse childhood experiences) on your health? The CDC and Kaiser Permanente published a study in the mid-90s that found a direct correlation between childhood abuse and neglect and health and wellbeing later in life. It was found that there is a direct correlation between the level of childhood stress and a number of leading illnesses like heart disease and lung cancer.

You may brush this off as being related to societal conditions, right?

Wrong.

The study found that even adults who had lived healthy lives, who ate a balanced diet and exercised, were still more likely to succumb to illness and had a much higher mortality rate.

Scientists found that this was, in fact, because chronic (long-term) stress affects how a child’s immune system, brain and hormonal systems develop. It even affects how DNA is read and transcribed. In other words, when a child is constantly and pervasively under threat from abuse, neglect or a parent who struggles with addiction or mental illness, then that stress will actually change that child’s physiology.

Can you imagine the far-reaching and long-term medical implications?

At this point, you may ask:

“Can you undo the health effects of adverse childhood experiences?”.

 

Hypnosis Heals

Last year was the first time I sought help for debilitating migraines using hypnotherapy. Twenty-sixteen was one of the worst years of my career. A nursing colleague who only met me over the course of one weekend (the weekend my mum was dying), decided to report me to the Nursing Council saying that I was unfit to practice. It took 15 months to clear my name.

After I’d won the battle to prove my innocence, I bought a freedom ring to celebrate. But instead of feeling good, the stress finally caught up with me and I was struck down by waves of headache after headache, often overlapping each other (this is known as Status Migrainus in medical terms).

My GP could do nothing to treat the migraines and suggested hypnotherapy for the pain as well as to help with the depression I had sunk into.

Genius! I consulted with a great friend and fellow hypnotherapist, and together we went back to an adverse childhood event. I was nine years old, in the A Grade of primary school. We had a substitute teacher, the first male teacher I’d ever had. This teacher was mean-spirited (he threw rubbers and was very handy with a ruler!) and had a thick northern accent that I struggled to understand. Shouting at us was the norm.

In hypnotherapy, I remembered how I had stood up to this scary and intimidating figure in order to protect one of my fellow classmates. After this incident I was moved to the B stream, never to return to the A stream again.

It took 55 years to understand the cause of the stress that started a cascade of illness including Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis, Fibroids, cancer of the uterus and Rheumatoid Arthritis. This early trauma was possibly later compounded by being raped at 15, not telling my parents until I learned I was pregnant, having the child and giving her up for adoption.

The CDC-Kaiser Permanente report reveals the link between childhood stress and autoimmune diseases as well as chronic illness as an adult.

 

Did hypnotherapy help?

I’m so delighted to report that my headaches stopped! After the hypnotherapy sessions with my colleague, I listened to the recordings she gave me for 21 days and my stress level dropped dramatically from 8/10 to 2/10. I have only had one migraine headache since!

Would you like to find out hypnotherapy can help your migraines or other ailments? Book a free discovery call now!

How hypnotherapy could cure your anorgasmia

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Have you given up on the idea of a ‘normal’, healthy sex life? Depending on how openly you speak about your sex life with your close friends, you may not be surprised to learn that about 30% of all women have trouble reaching orgasm (called anorgasmia), with that statistic climbing to 80% if the experience is based on vaginal intercourse alone.

While some women may take a little longer and need more attention and patience than some men in order to reach a state of orgasm, there are women who are unable to reach orgasm despite what would be considered adequate stimulation.

If this is you, then take heart – you are not alone!

This understandably upsetting and distressful state is called anorgasmia. There are a number of causes and triggers for anorgasmia. But first let’s find out why it’s important to get this fixed:

Why is sexual happiness important?

Sex is an important component of any relationship, whether with a trusted lover, significant other or life partner. Sexual happiness and satisfaction create a bond or connection between individuals and is key to the success of any intimate relationship.

But sometimes we find that our subconscious is sabotaging our sexual happiness. But why would this happen?

1. Past sexual trauma

It is a heart-breaking reality that many women suffer sexual abuse and emotional abuse at the hands of men. So often men that they have trusted. This has a profound impact on our ability to love ourselves and to be vulnerable sexually. It is not easy to open yourself up to another person and the dramatic effects of past sexual trauma can have long and devastating consequences for your sexual happiness.

2. Lack of intimacy in your relationship

Being a part of a relationship where you didn’t feel comfortable to express your sexual desires or even where your sexual happiness was not a priority can contribute to low self-esteem and difficulty in achieving orgasm.

Women may have more equal rights than ever before, but we are bombarded by destructive messages:

• The internet now offers readily available and easy access to increasingly unrealistic forms of pornography.

• Mainstream media portrays women’s sexual performance in relation to male desires.

This all puts a lot of pressure on women to “perform” for their partners rather than focus on their own sexual satisfaction or needs.

If your partner is a selfish lover and your relationship lacks intimacy, this could also have a profound effect on your ability to let go and achieve organism.

3. Sexual anxiety

Traumatic sexual experiences and a lack of intimacy or openness with your partner all lead to sexual performance anxiety. It goes without saying that this creates an environment where it’s impossible to have a satisfying sexual interaction. Orgasms come when your focus is on what your body is enjoying and not when your mind is alert to outside factors.

So, what is anorgasmia?

The Mayo Clinic defines anorgasmia as, “the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation, causing you personal distress”.

Of course, all women are different! Orgasms may vary in intensity, frequency and the amount of stimulation needed to reach this state; while factors such as age, medical issues, and medication may also have an impact on your ability to orgasm. Psychological factors are also a huge consideration when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

Female sexual dysfunction has perhaps not had as much publicity as it should when compared with male sexual dysfunction, yet some surveys confirm that female sexual dysfunction is common – as high as 43%.

If you’ve already seen your doctor and they have ruled out contributing conditions, such as thyroid disease, depression and diabetes (as these are also closely linked with female sexual dysfunction) then you may want to consider the healing effects of rapid transformational hypnotherapy.

Why hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy is a gentle, non-invasive way to conquer the expectations and negative re-patterning of anorgasmia. As a female hypnotherapist and the UK’s premier Sexual Happiness Guru, I have years of experience in handling deeply personal and difficult situations with kindness and compassion.

Using the Rapid Transformational Therapy method, the work I do gently re-patterns the negative associations and expectations of past sexual experiences (I won’t make you relive any traumatic experiences) and ultimately re-educates the mind-body connection. By dissolving any mental barriers you may have created as a protection mechanism, I free your mind to experience the pleasure of sexual intimacy again.

Don’t despair – there is hope.

I would love to speak with you. Book a free Discovery Call with me today and we’ll get you back on the path to sexual happiness and fulfillment!

4 Ways Your Subconscious is Sabotaging Your Sexual Happiness

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Are you completely carefree in your sex life? Chances are, like most adults, you have some or other subconscious issue that is holding you back from reaching sexual happiness.

As a woman, whether you are in a new relationship, have been married for years, or have been alone for some time – opening your body up to another person is an act that comes with extreme vulnerability.

Sex at any age should be an enjoyable experience! And if it isn’t, there’s a good chance that you’re dealing with some underlying issues that are haunting you and holding you back from sexual happiness – maybe causing some sexual dysfunction too. These underlying issues might be ghosts from past experiences or internalised self-doubt. The list of potential problems getting you down is endless – and in most cases, you may not even be conscious of what’s causing your inhibitions or reservations with regards to sex.

Do you know if you are in a state of sexual happiness? First, let’s look at exactly what sexual happiness is.

 

What is sexual happiness?

Anyone can have sex. It’s an instinct, an act that we are wired to desire as living beings. Having sex, however, is completely different to achieving sexual happiness. Sexual happiness is much less about the procedure, the act itself, or the physicality of it all.

Sexual happiness is a state of mind. It’s a state of being completely open, receptive and carefree in sexual and intimate situations. Sexual happiness is something that first comes from within yourself. It then manifests and expresses itself through a relationship you have with your sexual partner.

 

Sexual dissatisfaction

Do you ever feel uncomfortable in intimate situations? Do you perhaps feel unhappy, unwilling or uninvolved in sexual scenarios? Maybe you’ve even felt embarrassed by your sexual performance or discouraged by feelings of guilt.

There are numerous factors that may play on our minds during sex that will ultimately leave us feeling unsatisfied and lead to a bad relationship with intimacy.

Let’s look at some things that may be subconsciously holding you back from sexual happiness.

 

Low self-esteem

The Merriam Webster dictionary describes self-esteem as “a confidence and satisfaction in one’s self”.

On the opposite end of the scale, it can be said that low self-esteem is a lack of confidence in one’s self and a dissatisfaction with personal being. Low self-esteem can have devastating effects in many different areas of your life!

Healthy Women has written about the concept of Sexual Self-Esteem. Their article describes how the way you view yourself can largely impact on your comfort and openness to love and sex.

If you have low self-esteem, you may feel shy and reserved about your body and actions – leaving you stressed and unengaged with your partner. A low self-esteem means you don’t see true value in yourself, leaving you open to sexually risky behaviour or not being confident enough to voice your feelings.

 

Trust violation and previous betrayal

It’s happened to so many of us. If at some stage in your life you have been betrayed by a partner or someone close to you, you may still be hurting (whether you are aware of it or not) from that trust violation.

Trust violations are very emotionally draining and can easily leave you with emotional scars that cause you a general distrust of men. Your sexual happiness is largely based on your trust in your partner. If you’re still battling with a previous betrayal, chances are that you’re not feeling very carefree or receptive in your current sex life.

 

Past trauma and abuse

Any abuse, whether physical, emotional or mental will leave an internal wound on your psyche. If you have experienced any form of abuse in your past, you could still be affected by the trauma.

If this is the case, your subconscious may have internalised all kinds of false truths about yourself and about others. This could be largely why you’re feeling unlovable or dissatisfied.

 

Guilt

In an article by How Stuff Works, sexual guilt and shame is described as “a feeling of grave responsibility and deep remorse associated with participation in or even thoughts and fantasies about sexual activity.”

People who experience sexual guilt are of the belief that engaging in sexual activity is a negative act, a sinful experience, or even an unclean undertaking. These beliefs can come from a range of various places. If you’ve been raised in a conservative society or religious family, you may have been fed messages of promiscuity or sin with regards to sex.

Many of the beliefs we have around sex that have come from our upbringing are extremely harmful and counterintuitive. Feeling shameful about intimacy is an easy road to being sexually unhappy!

 

Sexual healing through hypnosis

Do you resonate with any of the above subconscious factors? If you feel that there is something holding you back or keeping you from finding a state of sexual happiness, it may be time for some internal reflection.

Hypnotherapy is a great way to tap into your subconscious and potentially address some of the underlying issues listed above. Healing through hypnosis will help you let go of the negative self-beliefs and thought patterns that could be causing your underwhelming sexual experiences.

If you’re interested in finding out more about how hypnosis could better your sex life, get in touch with me for a free, completely confidential Discovery Call.

 

Elaine Young is a registered nurse and qualified Rapid Transformation Therapy practitioner specialising in healing through hypnosis. She is the UK’s Premier Sexual Happiness Guru, assisting women in finding sexual happiness in their relationships.

How hypnotherapy can help with infertility issues

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Infertility and Feelings of not being good enough in your relationship

There are forms of cancer that target men more than women, and other diseases that affect mostly women. Stress is more likely to cause depression in men while the chances of women getting panic disorders are higher than their male counterparts. It seems the cruelty of illness – both physical and mental – is divided up between the enders. But there is one medical issue that affects both the same way. Normally when something treats both sexes equally it would be seen as a good thing, but there is no consolation in the fact that infertility undermines the emotions of both.

For men, it affects their sense of masculinity, removing the ability to father a child naturally.

For women, it attacks their self-esteem and sense of femininity.

Isn’t it time you started a family?

Outside of the confines of the relationship, there are difficult questions to answer and tricky situations to negotiate.

“About time you started a family isn’t it?” say the lads down the pub. “Will we be hearing the patter of tiny feet?” say the girlfriends over a glass of wine.

Answers have to be fudged. People who desperately want children sometimes find themselves pretending they’ve decided not to have a family. What an awful situation to be in.

Inside the relationship, there is the pain of a partnership under threat. The decision to have children is a joyous one and brings a sense of excitement and anticipation.

One medical test later and all those hopes and dreams disappear to be replaced by empty feelings and a sense of hopelessness.

As a species, we have evolved emotionally way beyond the days of a hunter-gatherer society, but those primaeval instincts to bear and raise a child remain.

That aching feeling

For some even, the opportunity to have treatments such as IVF, a modern medical marvel, does not help with the emotional turmoil. The fact you cannot conceive naturally, and the helplessness associated with it, can stay with someone even if they do manage to have a child with the help of the medical system.

Stress, depression and anxiety are huge problems when it comes to infertility, and this is something hypnotherapy can help with. Being treated this way can help the body be more likely to reproduce because all of those conditions listed are blocks to fertility.

Hypnotherapy can also be a hugely effective way of treating the sort of low self-esteem that comes with infertility issues.

Your therapist will use hypnotherapy to identify the patterns of negative thinking and not only change them but replace them with positive thoughts and beliefs.

And it’s not a one-size-fits-all solution – we are all unique and our negative feelings will manifest themselves in different ways.

After identifying your needs, a hypnotherapist will be able to promote healthy self-esteem and reduce the feelings of inadequacy in the long term.

Find out how I can help

Take the next step – watch my video to find out more, then book a face-to-face or Skype appointment to take the next step to happiness in your life or give my office a call on 01451 861808

Want to know more about hypnotherapy before you contact me? Watch my interview where I explain how the subconscious mind benefits from hypnosis to transform your life.

How Hypnotherapy can help with weight loss

How Hypnotherapy can help with weight loss

Weight, relationships, sensuality and hypnotherapy

January isn’t that long ago, so those of you who are regular gym users will still be able to remember that sudden rush of new members the day after New Year’s Day. Lured by generous New Year discounts, the hordes who had put ‘weight loss’ at the top of their resolutions list appeared.

By now, sadly, a lot of them will have already stopped going, demoralised by how hard it can be to start and maintain a new healthy lifestyle.

What drew them there in the first place?

Fitness, maybe, but for many it’s the gluttony of December that spurs them on. If you weren’t happy with your weight in the first place, then the work parties, the mince pies in the office, Christmas dinner and all the extra alcohol just compound the issue.
We shouldn’t really make New Year’s resolutions – you could just as easily have a new start in May or August – but there is something about taking stock at the start of a year that focuses the mind.

There are two main reasons for wanting weight loss

One is that you’re not happy with yourself, the way you look and the way your body makes you feel. The frustration that you can no longer fit into the clothes you used to wear, the feeling of overheating on hot summer days or in warm rooms. All of it adds up to an undercurrent of feeling uncomfortable in your own skin.
Secondly, you are unhappy about how your weight affects your relationship with your partner, and the way it might be undermining the physical intimacy between you. Our bodies naturally change as we get older, and usually not in ways we would like!

But while wanting to have a nap in the afternoon, not being able to cope with a few drinks like you used to and wandering into rooms and forgetting why you went there can be laughed off, things that affect our long-term relationships are not so easy to deal with.
It doesn’t have to be someone close to you commenting on your appearance (most people aren’t that unkind) that can affect your confidence. It’s the gradual decline of your physical relationship and romance that can make you feel your other half no longer desires you.
This can force people to make unhealthy decisions and get locked into a diet-fail-diet-fail cycle which is not always good for our wellbeing and certainly not for our self-esteem.

Hypnotherapy can help in two ways in this situation

Firstly, it is an invaluable tool when it comes to weight loss. Diets are a set of rules about what you can eat, and when. Hypnotherapy for weight loss switches the focus to your eating desires.
If the things we craved were the healthy things and not the sugary, fatty treats that are so tempting, then life would not only be healthier but we would actually enjoy eating well rather than it being a chore. By gaining control of your cravings, hypnotherapy can help you make that step.
Secondly, hypnotherapy can deal with the fear of intimacy rejection. Plenty of people are unsure how their partner feels about them physically and therefore withdraw rather than take the risk of getting hurt.
But you weren’t born with those feelings, you have learned them and absorbed them. Hypnotherapy can help you unlearn them and focus on where you want to be rather than what might go wrong.
Best of all, it can provide long-term, solid solutions. Not ones that only last until the end of January.

Start on your path to feeling great about your weight today. Want to know more about hypnotherapy before you contact me?

Watch my interview where I explain how the subconscious mind benefits from hypnosis to transform your life.
Then contact me to make a face-to-face or Skype appointment to take the next step to happiness in your life or give my office a call on 01451 861808.